I have reached this borderline age which is considered to be “the age”. You should’ve chosen the work of your life, you should’ve settled down with a family, have had at least one kid and have become a perfect wife by 25 years old. What if you haven’t reached all those things by your sweet 25? Should you get worried and face the music? Should you get a pet and spend Groundhog Days in your rented apartment time and again? I really don’t think so.
Unfortunatelly, the majority of us are exposed to the public assessment which can tremendously hurt us here and there. Some people are constantly asking whether you are dating somebody or you are on a verge of getting married. When the answer is negative, they look as if there is something wrong with you. When the answer is positive, their curiosity fades away and they approvingly nod their heads. Nobody cares if you are content with the life you lead as long as you can be pigionholed. You might not see eye to eye with your hubby, you might get by on a shoestring budget or have some tight relations with kids but this would definitely stay in the background.
I can assure you that the situation with job is practically the same. As long as you grabbed at the opportunity to work in a reputed company that provides you with job security and relatively stable paycheck, everyone around will respectfully look at you and even set you as an example to look up at. They aren’t aware of your fatigue, work overtime, inner voice which is telling you to get away from it all and finally go for something you really like instead of sitting in your cubicle from nine to five and then returning home just to hit the pillow and wind up your alarm clock for yet another working day.
Why has psychology caught on these days? I guess, because people cannot shoulder the burden of living their lifes “in a right way”, they are tired of behaving by the book and they are eager to open new horizons, enjoy every moment of this beautiful life and understand how to protect their space from the public intrusion. We are free to choose our own path in this life as long as it doesn’t hurt people around. So, we should have no fear to go against the grain and sometimes seem weird to those who surround us. This is your life and only you can truly realize what works for you.
So, at the age of 25 I’m waiting for the love of my life, I’m doing what brings me pleasure and I’m trying to figure out my path. Sometimes I feel down in the dumps and reiterate those “stereotypes” that make me feel even worse but in such moments I try “to think to myself what a wonderful world”.
